how to avoid failure?

seems if i am to lift for a while, eventually failure will catch up with me. maybe i bench press 250 for 8 on session and have 2 reps left in me, then go up to 255 next session, and have 1 rep left in me, but next time i do 260, it will be all i can do. then, next time i will not be able to complete last rep. function of increasing weights faster than strength increase. but i think this is normal, that strength do not increase by fixed amount each session, and you only have to increase by that amuont.

this happen to everyone i know. it happen whether they are to go up 5 lb each session, or go up smaller amount, using the fractional plate 1 lb. most people i know seem to reach failure on heavy set, then used forced rep with spotter to complete set. what should they be doing? what is strategy for avoiding working to failure?

ie if you reach concentric failure on last rep of today's work set, do you just wait until next session, and maybe you will not reach concentric failure that time? is there more systematic way? do i change loading parameter (do 8 reps until cannot progress, then do 5 reps, then decrease weight and go back up to 8 reps)

thanks again to many who helped me last time.

Its not possible to increase the weight every workout. Simple as that. Once you have passed a novice stage of adaptation you can't expect improvement every workout.

As well there is a great deal of evidence which suggests that trying to lift a 1RM every workout leads to stagnation and eventially degradation of motor skills. Personally I'm not convinced of this, but at any rate it certainly appears it isn't necessary to lift a 1RM every workout for optimal adaptation to occur. As well it appears that doing rep maxes to failure every workout is not optimal in terms of strength or speed development. You are suggesting a rep max.

The easy solution is to do a rep max once a month or something similiar and then work throughout the next month in the 75-85% range of your rep max. This is a good range for adaptation to training. Of course it means you have to keep your ego under control - and that is a good thing too.

I think it may depend on your definition of 1RM: absolute max with psych, or 'Bulgarian' max, for example. I think I recall from previous posts that your idea of a max is the greates weight you can reliably lift without psyching: I think this is much more sustainable week after week than all-out, gut-busting maxes.

Stay at a weight long enough for it to get easy like the previous weight was, then move up. You aren't going to be able to increase weight each workout like you describe (like Keith mentioned). It may take a week or month to increase weight.

Try the weight again. You may do better with it in the next workout.

Change the intensity level and/or reps every few weeks. Work out a plan. Do sets of 8 reps for x weeks, then sets of 6 reps for y weeks, etc.

Jeff out ...

Good point - I agree.

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